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Dear
He Say / She Say:
A sister told me she wanted a man who is fine,
intelligent, well-paid and has a good sense of humor.
Sounding like me, I made my move and was kicked to the
curb. I found out later she hooked up with a unemployed
rapping ruff neck? What's up with that?
Signed: Dissed
and Pissed
SINCK SAYS:
Dear Dissed and
Pissed:
When a woman says she wants a man to fulfill her needs,
she should make sure her basic needs aren't lyposuction,
a hair transplant and a large bag of gravy train. So
many women looking for Mr. Right never take into
consideration whether they are worthy of Mr. Right's
attention. It's the same mentality that causes so many
people to try to live a Dom Perignon lifestyle with a
Snapple income. I mean, a sister may be fine on the
outside, but you have to check out what's going on
inside her head, before you draw the conclusion that she
is Ms. Right. Instead, she may be Ms. Right-Now and not
be the first choice to be the mother of your children.
The most painful thing in the world is to have a fine
woman hiding in the bushes outside your house. What a
waste? Two words of warning, my brother? Lorena Bobbitt.
But she was clear from the jump, she said she wanted one
kind of man, but allowed an abusive one in her life. On
the other hand, if you, my brother are walking around
with 3 teeth in your head but love eating corn on the
cob, maybe you're due for self analysis! Remember the
brothers that star on Eyewitness News screaming,
"Revlon, Dark and Lovely and Flex Balsam Shampoo
are the devil's tools!" are usually the ones whom
the neighbors swear were so fine, quiet, intelligent,
athletic with a good sense of humor. But I am sure you
are one of those good brothers we don't hear enough
about. Here is my advice. Get with some sisters who will
value you just as much as they value themselves. Get on
over to a FlirtingTime.soiree!
SABRINA SAYS
Dear Dissed and Pissed:
If you are really all that, what's your phone number? On
second thought, I can't believe 'oh ye a little
self-esteem' are still checking for the sister after she
kicked you to the curb. I know I may have to tear up my
sister card, but some of my sistas aren't as honest as
they could be. 9 times out of 10 after they itemize what
they want, they usually settle for the jailbird-mack
daddy with bad credit and a bad attitude. They are
walking billboards for benign neglect. Some believe they
are modern day Kizzies, self-righteously carrying
trifling brothers, snuggled to our bosom to the Promise
Land. But the sooner we stop singing the old Negro
spirituals the sooner we can open a window in our lives
for a good man to climb in. (Just make sure it ain't 2
o'clock in the morning! That's something else entirely.)
Unless you think that soap and mouthwash are for special
occasions, the sister you met may be attracted to drama.
Now I'm not saying you should enroll in the Ike Turner
seminar "30 Days to an Ass-Whupping". But some
sisters attract the behaviors of men they believe they
are entitled to have. Or design a relationship that
confirms their opinion of men. For example, we may be at
a party and lock eyes with a divine image of a man, who
returns our interest, but who also has a woman on his
arm but we slip him our phone number anyway. When he
calls later, of course, everything is gonna be groovy,
but after Brother Man gets up in the kool-aid and stops
returning our calls to his pager; we forget how we met
him 'in de beginning.' Then we start whining that there
are no good men out there. The man showed us he was a
snake when we met him. Everything including men are
consistent from beginning to end. But then we say he
wasn't like that in the beginning? Of course, he was,
but we weren't listening. We were out planning our
bridal registry! So my brother, move on, keep a supply a
breath freshener and make sure you keep hope alive, when
you meet the beautiful sisters at FlirtingTime soirees.
Do you need free relationship advice? Email Sinck: Sinck@FlirtingTime.com
HE SAY/SHE SAY is
written by Comedian/Actor Robert "Sinck"
Sinckler, who has appeared on NBC's "It's ShowTime
at the Apollo", BET's "Comicview". He
also contributed satire to New York's Morning Show on
WWRL, and was a contributing editor for Black Elegance
Magazine.
For Sabrina Lamb's Bio -- Go to the Who's Who page.
Email Sabrina: Sabrina@FlirtingTime.com
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